For the purposes of telling a story, we've moved, temporarily.

Very recently, I went to San Francisco Green Drinks with a few friends and co-workers, halfway hopeful about finding a girlfriend. It took about a half hour before resignation sank in, but by then I was very content to just hang out with good people. Of course - as always - a young professional on a networking crusade had to interrupt a conversation that I was having with my equally defeated wingman. After our introductions, the guy just went off.

"Nice to meet you. I'm Steven. Here's my card. If you haven't heard about us, we're called EcoGlobalSecuritySystems and we're down in Mountain View. We're a green military defense contractor. EcoGlobalSecuritySystems is the only company in the Silicon Valley that's building sustainable and biodegradable weapons systems. Our mission is to create defense systems that can annihilate hundreds of thousands of people while still protecting wildlife and sensitive habitat.

"When we started, we were fresh out of Stanford and were a little idealistic. It was 2003, the Iraq Invasion had just begun, and we were immediately concerned about how 'green' the war would be. 'Can't we have a military intervention that's environmentally friendly and carbon neutral?' we asked ourselves. And out of that sentiment sprang EcoGlobalSecuritySystems. We put our heads together, formulated a business plan, collected some venture capital, hired a lot of smart people, and threw a bunch of equations onto a whiteboard. At that point, we were very enthusiastic.

"Unfortunately, the Bush Administration didn’t see a role for environmental protection in the war on terror. And just a few months ago, we were disappointed to learn that Obama isn't interested in us either. So - while we still feel horrible about doing it - we recently decided to supply our technology to new clients. Contrary to our allegiances and ideals, today we do business with the Taliban, Al Qaeda, Hezbollah, and the Iranian Revolutionary Guard. For better or worse, we're the only military defense contractor in the United States that does business with radical Islamic extremists and anti-American military forces. And to be honest with you, I'm only somewhat consoled by the fact that we're going public on the NYSE in mid-September."

At this point, I was a little dumbfounded. As I was trying to manufacture some obligatory response, a woman standing behind us thankfully relieved me of the burden.

"Hi, I'm Joan. I couldn’t help but overhear your discussion about the environment,” she said. “I work for OceanicEcoRanchingProducts. Here’s my card. If you don’t know about us, we're a company located next to City Hall - nearby a lot of dirty homeless people who dwell in their own filth and take money from the government. Our home office is in Iceland, though. I like Iceland, because things aren’t so ethnic over there. Anyway, I work for OceanicEcoRanchingProducts. We're the only company in the world that makes harpoons out of recycled and recyclable materials. Our mission is to make whale slaughtering more environmentally responsible. Our harpoons are used on Japanese and Norwegian boats. But anyway, we're finding that our market share is growing, despite the recession caused by the Jews.”

At that point, I gathered my belongings and said goodbye to my friends and co-workers. It took about five minutes to catch the Pittsburg/Bay Point train and I transferred at 12th Street in Oakland. I found myself distracted from the book that I was reading as we approached MacArthur Station. I looked over the business cards that I had just collected, and my attention was drawn toward the fading city beyond the window. Could you believe that guy Steven? He was a self-righteous yuppie, spreading global destruction and undermining national security, just for a cheap buck. But then there was Joan. There was Joan.

After eating breakfast on Saturday morning, I decided to give her a call, hoping that she might be free.

If I had had the finances, I would have taken a trip to the upper reaches of Nepal to find the answers. But in an effort to find inner peace on the cheap, I recently scaled Mount Diablo instead. I started at the base of the paid parking lot last Thursday at 2:00 and reached the summit last Thursday at 2:15. When I got to the top, I found a wise Asian man in his 70s sitting beneath a tree.

I introduced myself to him and he instantly knew what I was there for. "You're seeking answers," he said. "But I've got to be up front with you," he said. "I'm not in the enlightenment business anymore. It's unprofitable. I studied among the best Zen Masters of all of Tibet and half of Marin County, but now I'm here for financial planning. When Bernanke announced a pessimistic forecast for this fiscal year, I traded in my flute and my walking stick for this Dell Inspiron laptop with Windows XP. The Wi-Fi actually isn't that bad up here. At daybreak, I can look out into the San Ramon Valley, turn on my computer, balance my portfolio, and watch the markets move. Last time I checked, the S&P was twelve points off in afternoon trading. It's reacting to yesterday's market correction in Shanghai. But that's not why you're here - I can tell that you're here for some kind of higher purpose. But, listen man, I shaved off my goatee and hung up that hat. I had to euthanize the birds that once perched themselves on my shoulders. Times are tough."

He paused, but then went on --

"But you look like an all-right guy and I appreciate your effort of walking up here. Let me give you someone's card. It belongs to Father Bob Nastanovich of Our Lady of Perpetual Good Times. No relation. He's down the hill in Walnut Creek. A solid guy. It's funny - he got kicked out of divinity school for selling drugs. Fortunately, someone out there didn't demand credentials and decided to give him a job. It didn't hurt that Bob was well connected, though. When in Italy, he has power lunches with higher-ups in the Vatican. Anyway, good luck."

And with that, I descended from Mount Diablo and caught a County Connection bus back into the city. I stopped at the Chipotle in downtown Walnut Creek, ate a tostada, and then placed a call with the priest. He told me that he was free and gave me directions to his church.

I met the priest in his dimly lit office, where he was sitting behind a desk. There wasn't much in the way of introductions or chit-chat. He wanted to get down to business. "What are you doing here?" he asked. "What's your thing?"

Perhaps it was the power of the moment or perhaps it was his position of authority, but I felt that I could confide in the man. I spoke somewhat softly. "Thanks for meeting me," I said. "I suppose I'm here because I haven't found closure on my Saturn Returns, if you will," I said. "I work in fund-raising for a national nonprofit land conservation organization, but I also feel like I should be doing something that's more creative. I'm playing bass guitar in a band. We're practicing in a garage on Potrero Hill. We've played a few shows, mainly for friends, but I think it's a start."

I detected a grimace on his face, but I continued --

"My real problem, however, has to do with my love life. I just turned thirty recently and I'm starting to think about a future within a family. The problem is, I haven't had an official long-term relationship with a woman in a very long time. There is, however, a woman that I talk to at the dog park most evenings. I think it's a start. I'm feeling enormous pressure to make something happen. The anxiety is stifling any opportunities that I may have. So I'm turning to religion and spirituality for some sort of guidance in my life."

The priest gave me a cold stare.

"Well," he said. "First off -- an all knowing God is aware of your shitty band and every shitty band in the Bay Area. There are hundreds of them. You may not have to listen to all of them, but God does. This creative pursuit that you're talking about will go nowhere. If you want to do anything with your life, put away childish things and get practical. God wants all of his children to observe Lent and have a good grasp of Microsoft Office Suite. Judging by what you're telling me, you probably have some command of MS Word and MS Excel. God must be somewhat pleased with you, so you should be somewhat pleased with yourself. Don't freak out, dude.

"Secondly," he said, "please don't get me started about women at dog parks. People who take their dogs to dog parks are usually single and desperate. Trust me, I was one of them. I made a big occupational no-no with one woman from a dog park. And let me tell you, I should have reviewed the Roman Catholic Church's Human Resources Policy Manual, because this girl was a huge mistake. Let me tell you something. Listen to me. A woman carrying a bag of dog shit exemplifies warmth, courtesy and social responsibility so well that you're bound to overlook the dog shit in her hands."

He looked away briefly and then spoke again.

"We were together for ten months and she left me for a civil engineer with a golden retriever. She broke my heart. I saw her with that man all of the time. And do you know what was worse than their public displays of affection?" he asked.

"It was their private displays of affection," he said.


The priest and I were silent until he looked at his watch. "Holy shit," he said. "It's five o'clock and I need to get the hell out of here. My shift is over. Here's my card. Are we done here, or can we do this over e-mail? I've got a six o'clock date that I need to find on Capp Street. Tonight we're seeing a film in the Tenderloin. It's about people who fuck each other."

And so, as he was getting into his sports car, I thanked him and told him that he was helpful. Heading back toward BART, I stopped into Target to buy soap and fabric softener. The checker put my merchandise into a plastic bag with plastic handles. Upon leaving the store, I was asked to open my bag and present my receipt, but I passed the test much like everyone else. It felt like a minor moral accomplishment, making me feel a little bit better about how I spent my day.

Around Valentine's Day in 2007, my cousin Scott founded a nonprofit for senior citizens in San Francisco. The organization, named "SeniorTouch," seeks to provide sexual information, materials and services for men in their later years.

It's a cause that Scott feels passionately about. As he puts it: "It's sad that in our society, too many seniors are derogatorily referred to as 'dirty old men.' There's obviously a double standard at play. Younger men with active sex lives are often considered healthy and virile. Older men, however, are often subject to shame or ridicule when expressing themselves sexually. It's particularly sad, because many of these men live quiet and lonely lives, many of them recovering from the death of a loving partner."

So, not to brag, but my cousin is trying to do something about it. Recently, SeniorTouch has lobbied the San Francisco Municipal Transportation Agency to make Muni buses scarce and less frequent. "Crowded buses are great for sexually frustrated seniors," Scott explains. "On a crowded bus, seniors can press their bodies onto the bodies of fellow passengers... Also, there are very few venues available for seniors to erotically observe younger men and women in a way that's free and convenient. It's a great experience that only public transportation can really provide."

When forced, Scott will acknowledge Muni's progress, but he says there's still a lot of room for improvement. "Muni has made its buses accessible to seniors, and that's great. But now it needs to go the whole nine yards by making public transportation sexually rewarding."

Of course, my cousin's efforts don't stop there. Scott is also very intent on making pornography more accessible to seniors, and is highly critical of the city's elected officials. "I guess the Mayor and the Board of Supervisors don't get it," he says. "Not every senior has the means to get to the Tenderloin every night - and there are areas of this city that are drastically under-served by pornographic theaters and video stores." Scott adds: "I'd really like to see Mayor Newsom try to purchase an adult film on a Sunday night in Sea Cliff. I'd really like to see Supervisor Avalos find a peep show in the Crocker-Amazon before the donut shops open and the Today Show first reports the day's weather." As my cousin says forcefully: "The city doesn't get it, and that's a damn shame for our seniors."

Unfortunately, help for frustrated seniors won't arrive quickly. The economic stimulus bill to be signed by President Obama tomorrow includes no "shovel-ready" projects for pornographic theater or video store construction. However, before the battle is even played out on the national stage, change needs to happen at the local level. San Francisco is an enlightened and progressive city, but its neglect of seniors is shameful. We truly can and should do better.